Sean and I get REALLY real in this episode about our open marriage. Sharing some things we never thought we’d be able to share. Click on play to listen below!
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Ep #52: Open Marriage w/ Sean Escobar
I just wanna say thank you, thank you for sharing your heart.
Thank you so much for your comment Katie! I really appreciate it.
Crystal,
I know we have had our lives crossed a few times in life. I will have to admit, at one time, I felt your account wasn’t what was a good fit for me in my life at that moment. I didn’t think I had anything to relate to. So, I unfollowed you. It was a phase when social media was saying if you don’t gain something out of an account to in follow. So, I did. I ran across your account a few months ago when you were having a faith crisis. I listened to your podcast intently and felt at home and understood for the first time in a long time. I listened to more and more epiosdes and shared with whom I trusted . I want you to know that I validate your feelings, I felt validated myself, and am now a follower again because of your honestly and vulnerability. I don’t care what religion, belief, parenting style you have but I what I took from your faith crisis was your honesty. The honestly that might be judged but wanting to be authentic. You love deep, your authentic, and for that I am now a life time follower and you now remind me of the girl I knew in high school. Thank you for being you and for being so open and authentic. ❤️ Keep sharing!
Wow! Thank you SO much for that message Kristin! I really appreciate you telling me that. It’s funny, Sean and I were both saying just recently how we felt most authentic when we were in highschool, and when we became active in the church is when we lost ourselves and became unknowingly “fake”. I didn’t realize I was pretending to be someone I’m not. So it’s really cool that you said that about how you NOW see me as the highschool me that you remember. So cool for you to see that. Thank you for your sweet words Kristin!!!
I love this! And I’m so glad you aren’t in an open marriage. My heart sank when I was first listening to this until you said an openness marriage. Openness Vs open marriage. Open marriage is a whole different thing. Just my opinion.
And Sean, thank you for sharing about your sexual abuse and finally facing your abuser. You are an amazing person and so many hearing this might just step forward and face their abuser too.
Crystal and Sean, Best Wishes and I look forward to many more podcasts. You two are BREAKING new ground in your topics! ❤️
Haha, I’m sorry to give you a scare Vicki! Thank you for your comment! We really appreciate your positive feedback!
So many thoughts after listening to your podcast. Pretense, secrets, scripts—all words that describe Mormon theology and the consequential, cultural outcome. Getting to a place in marriage wherein vulnerability fosters effective communication is THE quintessential arrival for me. Secrets are not necessarily bad. We hold things close until we are certain that their release will have low risk. Furthermore, it takes years of stability and a safe routine to foster the release of those emotions / thoughts we hold so tightly. As I always say to Ashlee, ALL behavior is purposeful. There is a reason some people hold secrets–the ineffable angst that stirs their soul. The conundrum is that most of us want to release that expression without judgment. We don’t want a hearing! We want to be heard. We don’t want a verdict! We want validation. There is something to be said in saying out loud what we have keep to quiet. Peace is not to be found in silence but in the vocal expression. Having those words held dearly by a trusted other is HOW we find the kind of intimacy that forges lasting love. After 20 years of counseling and two failed marriages, I am certain, now, that what I have with Ashlee is rare. The way you and Sean talk seems wonderfully familiar.
Thank you so much Andrew!!! I love every bit of what you said. Sure appreciate you leaving a comment and sharing your thoughts and words of wisdom.
This is such a powerful podcast! Thank you for sharing your experiences, your pain, and the wisdom you gained as a result. I went through a similar religious experience over ten years ago where I began questioning things taught in the church. I lost a lot of friends as a result, but things are a thousand times better now. It’s not fun to be in the midst of all the confusion and turmoil but, rest assured, there IS an end in sight. I’m glad you and Sean have the maturity and wisdom to tackle these things head on. I wish I had heard this podcast all those years ago. May many, many other people glean hope and courage from your experiences! Thanks for sharing, Crystal and Sean.
Aw, we sure appreciate you Jeannie! Love your positive feedback. It’s always nice to hear from those who can truly relate to what we are going through.
Crystal! This podcast is a breath of fresh air! You are so beautiful on the outside (too) that it is easy to see the beautiful social media photos and forget that you are living this same life as we all are! Thank you not only for the vulnerability but also the positivity! It can still be positive and result in deeper friendships and love with others.
love, love, love this!
Thank you so much Cathy! I really appreciate your support and loving kindness toward me as I step out of my comfort zone and speak about things that I really scary for me to do publicly.