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May 9, 2023 · in addiction· Health· Monthly Challenge

Ep #159: HEALING | Mind, Body, & Soul

Let’s take a look at your symptoms, physical AND mental. Do you have any pain in your body? Extra weight? Skin conditions, thinning hair?

Are you dealing with any anxiety or depression?

What ever the symptom is, there is always a root cause and that’s what I hope tonights class can help you identify.

With my rash I explored all potential causes. Through deep introspection and researching breast implant illness, I was able to narrow it down.

When I began reading about breast implant illness and discovered countless stories of other women experiencing the same symptoms as me, I was convinced that my next step towards better health should be to remove my implants.

I also made sure to look at my mental and emotional health during this time. I even went back and read some of my journal entries leading up to the rash outbreak.

I noticed a theme in my writings. RESENTMENT. I was carrying a lot of resentment in my body, thinking I was processing it by writing it out. But writing alone is not always enough. Sometimes you need to SAY something rather than hold it in. Sometimes it’s necessary to voice how you’re feeling, what you’re upset about, set some boundaries and make some changes.

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February 8, 2023 · in addiction· Marriage· overcoming· Podcast

Ep #154: My Addiction to the “Sean Drug” | Codependency and Self Worth

I didn’t know I was codependent until about 2 years ago when Sean “Ferberized” me.

For most of our marriage Sean was my source of feeling good about myself. He always made me feel loved, cherished, sexy, safe, and valued.

I’d often say, “boy Sean, I wish I could just see myself through your eyes”.

It’s like pure ecstasy to be loved and seen by Sean. But the only problem was, I got addicted to the “Sean drug” and eventually became dependent on it.

He became my main source of feeling good about me, which as you can imagine is extremely exhausting for anyone to carry that kind of expectation and responsibility.

Sean got to a point in our marriage where he tired of me constantly needing him to fill my cup.

He knew that the only way we would get out of this unhealthy never ending cycle, was for him to allow me to “cry it out”.

So in a sense, I had to go through a detox period and experience all the withdrawals. The pain that comes when ever you’re trying to beat an addiction.

I had to learn to self soothe…

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January 4, 2023 · in addiction· Health· Health weight loss· Podcast

Ep #149: How to QUIT Sugar, Alcohol, or Coffee

I’ve attempted to quit plenty of things over my lifetime, as we all have. But ever since 2020 I’ve discovered an entirely new level of discipline. It’s like something suddenly clicked in my brain and I was able to conquer many of my addictions, cravings, and urges.

Things I’ve kicked since 2020, sugar, gluten, coffee, alcohol, pizza, chocolate, my addiction to social media, gossiping, and much much more.

Since noticing this huge shift in my ability to conquer these things, I’ve began to reverse engineer what has been happening to me, which is a lot, and I’ve actually formulated a whole process that I’m now coaching people through, but I wanted to share a small piece with you today to assist you in your resolutions for 2023.

My theme this year is to become a New ME in 2023. I started setting my intensions a few weeks ago and created a free workbook for all of you. If you’re on my email list then you should have received it, if not then you can sign up via this link: http://eepurl.com/cOWSW5

The goal with this workbook is to clearly identify the person you’re hoping to step into, then identify the specific habits you need to develop in order to embody that potential you know you have.

So what I’m getting at here, is that quitting anything obviously starts with HABITS and I’m going to teach you what I’ve found to be the most effective habit forming strategy. And of course, schedule a coaching session with me if you’re needing additional help and accountability.

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March 6, 2019 · in addiction· balance· List's and Schedules· Podcast

Ep #47: Establishing a Morning Routine

Let’s be real, waking up before the kids is extremely difficult. But I definitely pay a price when I don’t get a head start on my day.

On the days I sleep in, I tend to feel scattered, overwhelmed, and a bit stressed. Lacking focus on what I need and should be doing, rendering an unproductive day.

Not only that but I struggle to be present when I’m with my kids. I try so hard to give them my full attention when they need me but I’m constantly feeling anxious and two steps behind.

I need the peace and stillness of the morning to organize my thoughts and my day. To meditate, to write out affirmations, to focus on gratitude, to read and to ponder. I simply needed QUIET TIME with no interruptions.

My morning routine gives me a sense of calm. I feel more centered and at peace with my daily mom work flow. I feel more relaxed, yet more productive. I’m able to focus and be more present with my children. Most importantly I just feel an overall sense of wellbeing.

Waking up early is hard, but the pay off is worth it. Studies have shown that waking up early can ACTUALLY put you in a better mood. It’s especially important for us moms. We rarely get a moment to ourselves and it’s better that we go to bed early and utilize those morning hours as opposed to staying up late to get your “YOU” time in. We are more productive in the morning hours than at night. In the evening I just end up watching Netflix.

I wanted to show you what my daily morning routine looks like, as well as give you a FREE printable. It’s just a little helpful guide for you to use as part of your morning rituals. Get your printable HERE.

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Night Prep

First of all, a successful daily morning routine starts the night before. Check out my NIGHT TIME ROUTINE video. I like to make everything a ritual really. I’m all about setting the mood. Lighting a candle or putting lavender in my Aroma Essential Oil Diffuser. Make yourself a cup of night time tea, put on a clarifying or moisturizing face mask, and play some calming music.

I find it helpful to write out a list of things I need and WANT to do the next day. Not just work and household tasks. But I really ponder the things I want to improve in my role as a mother and a wife. Like certain activities I want to do with my kids, or even write out little goals like; take more video and pics of them, pray together, teach them how to help with household chores. Pay more attention to the cute things they say and take the time to write them down. Bring a surprise lunch to my kids at school, or prepare a special family dinner.

I also like to take a moment to think about some ways I can make the day run smoother. Like starting a load of laundry, choosing all our outfits for the next day, making sure the car is cleaned out, and doing a little meal prep.

Wannabe Balanced Daily Morning Routine

You know I’m all about that BALANCE. I like to incorporate balance in everything I do and my daily morning routine is the perfect time to focus on mind, body, and soul. Again, I like to start by setting the mood. Find a comfy quiet spot, (preferably a place where you can watch the sun rise). Set up your Aroma Essential Oil Diffuser with some Relax & Rejuvenate essential oil blend. Make yourself a cup of tea, or warm lemon juice, and a big glass of water. I also like my caffeine. I drink coffee sometimes, but I really enjoy an EShot which is an all natural alternative energy shot with caffeine derived from Yerba Mate and adaptogens to help the body cope with stress.

If you could wake up 2 hours before your kids that would be ideal, but I know for me its REALLY hard to do that. So I do what I can and usually I wake up just an hour before they wake up and I still see that positive impact it has on my mood and the flow of my day. Here is an example of what my morning quiet time looks like.

- Record my dreams
- Drink large glass of water
- Brush my teeth with left hand
- Listen to a song with uplifting words
- Do a little stretching and or some Yoga poses.
- Meditate with my grounding mat and crystals
- Read
- Write
- Brain Boosting Smoothie (see my recipe HERE)
- Fill out my worksheet which includes a gratitude list and affirmations.
- Get dressed for the day, make your bed, and start preparing breakfast.

On the printable worksheet I felt it very important to address my Phone Addiction. I want to set aside a few hours a day where my phone is OFF LIMITS. Not texting, no siri, no google, no checking email and social media notifications.

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May 12, 2017 · in 52 Weeks of Balance Project· addiction· balance· Inspiration· time management

Establishing A Daily Morning Routine

Let’s be real. Waking up before the kids is extremely difficult. Usually Owen (my 3 year old) wakes up first and has no sympathy whatsoever. He comes straight into my room and yells at me to get out of bed. I beg him for one more minute but he shows no mercy and the yelling just escalates into a full on tantrum. This has been my life for the past 6 months or so. I completely got out of the habit of making time for personal study, prayer and meditation.

<<<Listen to my Morning Routine Podcast Episode HERE>>>

I’d go about my days feeling scattered, overwhelmed, and a bit stressed. I lacked focus on what I needed and should be doing each day, therefore I was not as productive as normal. Not only that but I struggled to be present when I was with my kids. I tried so hard to give them my full attention when I knew they needed me but my mind would wonder, and I was constantly worried about what needed to be done. Over time I began to notice feelings of anxiety creeping in. Thats when I knew I needed to make some changes.

So I decided to take action. I knew I needed to take more time to prepare for the day instead of constantly feeling two steps behind and playing catch up. I needed the peace and stillness of the morning to organize my thoughts and my day. To pray to God about the things that were on my mind. To write out my affirmations and gratitude list. To read and to ponder. I simply needed QUIET TIME with no interruptions.

The last two weeks I’ve been waking up an hour or two before the kids to allow that time to revive my morning ritual, and guess what? I’ve noticed an unbelievable difference. I feel more calm, more centered and more at peace with my daily mom work flow. I feel more relaxed, yet more productive. I’m able to focus and be more present with my children. Most importantly I just feel an overall sense of wellbeing.

I wanted to show you what my daily morning routine looks like, as well as give you a FREE printable I created with the help of my friend Glady at Hearttakethewheel.com. It’s just a little helpful guide for you to use as part of your morning rituals. Get your printable HERE.

Night Prep

First of all, a successful daily morning routine starts the night before. I like to make everything a ritual really. I’m all about setting the mood. Lighting a candle or putting lavender in my Aroma Essential Oil Diffuser. Make yourself a cup of night time tea, put on a clarifying or moisturizing face mask, and play some calming music.

Wannabe Balanced Daily Morning Routine

You know I’m all about that BALANCE. I like to incorporate balance in everything I do and my daily morning routine is the perfect time to focus on mind, body, and soul. Again, I like to start by setting the mood. Find a comfy quiet spot, (preferably a place where you can watch the sun rise). Set up your Aroma Essential Oil Diffuser with some Relax & Rejuvenate essential oil blend. Make yourself a cup of tea, or warm lemon juice, and a big glass of water. I also like my caffeine. I don’t drink coffee, but I do enjoy an EShot which is an all natural alternative energy shot with caffeine derived from Yerba Mate and adaptogens to help the body cope with stress.

- Prayer
- Listen to a song with uplifting words (I like to listen to Today’s Christian Hits channel on Pandora).
- Do a little stretching and or some Yoga poses.
- Meditate
- Read scriptures
- Read a few pages in the book I’m reading. Right now it’s Feelings Buried Alive Never Die
- Fill out my worksheet which includes your gratitude list and affirmations.
- Get dressed for the day and start preparing breakfast.

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April 29, 2017 · in addiction· balance· happiness· Inspiration· Life of a Wannabe· My Thoughts and Feelings· personal growth

Printed Books vs Ebooks: 3 Reasons Why Printed Books Are Better

“There is something wonderful about a book. We can pick it up. We can heft it. We can read it. We can set it down. We can think of what we have read. It does something for us. We can share great minds, great actions, and great undertakings in the pages of a book.”

~Gordon B. Hinckley

I remember when I first read this quote in the book Standing for Something: 10 Neglected Virtues That Will Heal Our Hearts and Homes 16 years ago. Back before technology was such a huge part of our lives. I wrote this quote down in my notebook full of my favorite quotes. For some reason this really resonated with me. Standing For Something was actually the first book I ever really LOVED. Took me 20 years to realize how much I LOVED to read. Not just any books though, I craved TRUTH and understanding about life and my purpose. Reading that book sparked a deep desire to self educate and gain as much knowledge as I could. I’m always searching for more and little by little unraveling the mysteries of life.

Now fast forward 16 years and I see how much things have changed. The abundance of information we are presented with on a daily basis. It’s all so amazing yet so overwhelming.

As I pondered this quote, I was inspired to write this post and talk about the printed books vs ebooks debate and share the 3 reasons I feel we should choose printed books over ebooks.

#1 To be an example to your kids.

Lately I’ve been trying to be more conscious of how often my kids see me on my phone or the computer. Most of the time I’m working and being productive but for all my kids know, I could be doing the very same things they choose to do on their iPads and phones. Like playing candy crush or watching Netflix. I don’t want my kids to think I spend my time on mindless entertainment. I want them to see that I desire to learn and grow by filling my mind with valuable information.

So instead of reading books and articles on my phone I choose to read an actual book or play the audio version if possible so that my kids see me learning rather than assume I’m just playing Angry Birds or watching reality tv shows on YouTube.

#2 Too many distractions.

My phone and computer just has TOO many distractions. Remember that post I did about How To Balanced The Addiction To Social Media? Well the struggle is real. Once you pick up that phone and see those red notification numbers in the corner of your favorite social apps, you can’t help but check them? Pretty soon you’re sucked in and before you know it, you never actually made it over the book app or article you set out to read in the first place.

There are just too many things pulling me every which way when I’m on my phone and computer. Gotta check email, gotta buy something on Amazon, respond to this and that, shop for this and that and it’s just a never ending train ride that’s extremely difficult to get off.

#3 The ability to mark and add notes.

I don’t know about you, but I just love marking up my books, folding down corners of pages I like, and adding my own thoughts and notes to the margins. By doing this I’m able to easily refer back to different quotes and inspired thoughts that came to me while reading. I love finding sentences and paragraphs that speak to my soul and resonate with what I’m experiencing in my life at the moment. I have a wonderful collection of books that have made me a better person. I love to revisit them when writing my blog posts because often times I find something that is so well written that I can’t imagine writing it any better. Therefore I simply add it to my posts. Like Hinckley said, there is just something about an actual book. Such a profound way to connect our minds with others around the world and of different generations of time. And I also LOVE using actaul paper to take notes and write down thoughts. I much prefer that over typing it out. Something about looking back in my old journals and seeing my own handwriting. Brings me back to the very moment I wrote it down. Reminds me of where I was and how far I’ve come in this journey called life.

Pondering on the printed books vs ebooks debate and putting together these three reasons has actually motivated me even more to write my book and get it published as opposed to sharing it all on my blog. There’s just something about holding a book in your hand and flipping those pages that a computer or phone simply cannot replace.

Ep #159: HEALING | Mind, Body, & Soul

Ep #154: My Addiction to the “Sean Drug” | Codependency and Self Worth

Ep #149: How to QUIT Sugar, Alcohol, or Coffee

Ep #47: Establishing a Morning Routine

Night Prep

Wannabe Balanced Daily Morning Routine

Establishing A Daily Morning Routine

Night Prep

Wannabe Balanced Daily Morning Routine

Printed Books vs Ebooks: 3 Reasons Why Printed Books Are Better

#1 To be an example to your kids.

#2 Too many distractions.

#3 The ability to mark and add notes.

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