Don’t take your personality personally, it’s not you. You are the watcher, the observer, the director…

Like a scientist, you learn through the experimentation of things.

You are not the rat. You are gaining insights by watching the rats and how they respond and interact.

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When I was about 21 years old I remember telling one of my friends about my crazy life as a child. She said to me, “wow, you’re going to write a book some day”.

That ONE comment sparked a tiny little flame of belief in myself. I never would have expected anyone to say something like that to me. I always believed that I wasn’t very smart.

We moved about every 6 months growing up which meant I was constantly changing schools and curriculums, not to mention the adjustment period I went through each time.

I was in the lowest reading level and often had to go to a separate class with the kids who needed extra help. So this sure did a number on my self esteem. Also, I was completely unaware of the growth mindset that Carol Dweck so beautifully reveals.

I always believed that my genes determine my potential.

I wasn’t one of the “lucky” ones. Wasn’t “blessed” with any special gifts or talents. My parents couldn’t afford to put me in dance or any sports, so I didn’t have opportunities to find out if I was even good at anything. 

So when my friend said this to me I just went with it. I started thinking a lot about it, imagining it, brainstorming ideas of what I could write about in a book.

Five years later I started the Wannabe Balanced blog, ten years after that I wrote that book!

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Let’s talk about the marshmallow experiment…

I’m not gonna lie, when I first heard about this experiment, I was not pleased with it because of how it suggested that those who aren’t great at delaying gratification would ultimately end up failing in life.

I was completely unaware of the growth mindset that Carol Dweck so beautifully reveals.

I always believed that my genes determine my potential and I was predestined to fail.

I didn’t have much evidence to prove otherwise. I wanted things NOW, and wasn’t much good with patience or discipline.

Boy has that changed. Over time I have adapted an incredible amount of discipline in many areas of my life.

This week on the Wannabe Balanced Podcast I talk a little about some ways to build the muscle of delayed gratification, because it really is a muscle that can grow and improve with practice and repetition.

Also, join me live TONIGHT on Facebook (Thursday 6:00pm MST) for more on the topic of turning your dreams into reality.

Check out my recent YouTube video sharing how I choose what to wear each day and have minimized my wardrobe in order to avoid decision fatigue.

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I’m now offering a 4 week one on one Time Management coaching package for $111.

I will help you plan out your time in a way that creates more balance, efficiency, and productivity.

Time management is one of my super powers! I get so giddy any time I get to help someone in this area.

If you’re needing help with managing your time, then I’m your gal.

Schedule a free session with me using my calendar link:

https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/1-hour-coaching-session

There we will be able to discuss ore about how I can help you balance your life and your time.

In a nutshell, this package includes weekly 30 min. one on one coaching/ planning sessions, weekly “to do’s” and “do don’ts”, as well as a live class where I go into all of my time management tips and answer all of your burning questions. 

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Uploading more bite sized episodes, sharing pieces of some of my recent coaching sessions.

The kids are back in school and I’ve been joyously working on my schedule, routines, and time management.

Speaking of which, I’m now offering a 4 week one on one Time Management coaching package for $111.

I will help you plan out your time in a way that creates more balance, efficiency, and productivity.

Time management is one of my super powers! I get so giddy any time I get to help someone in this area.

If you’re needing help with managing your time, then I’m your gal.

Schedule a free session with me using my calendar link:

https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/1-hour-coaching-session

There we will be able to discuss ore about how I can help you balance your life and your time.

In a nutshell, this package includes weekly 30 min. one on one coaching/ planning sessions, weekly “to do’s” and “do don’ts”, as well as a live class where I go into all of my time management tips and answer all of your burning questions. 

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The ALL or NOTHING mentality is a cognitive distortion that results in depressions, anxiety, procrastination, binging, and completely sabotaging your progress. It’s a black and white way of thinking, perfectionist syndrome, causing you to see reality in extremes.

It’s good or it’s bad… Right or wrong… Success or complete failure…

Where does this mentality stem from? I believe it’s simply the natural evolution of the human experience. Just like new born babies are only able to see in black and white, but over time the begin to develop the ability to see shades of grey, and then even color.

Historically speaking, we come from generations of black and white thinking. Religion and politics are great examples of how this mentality has perpetuated over centuries.

Democrats and Republicans, heaven or hell, good vs. evil, true or false, worthy or unworthy. More often than not we find that one group believes they are right and everyone else is wrong.

No disrespect intended towards religion or politics, I believe humanity has come a long way in this arena.

This mentality has spilled over into a lot of parenting styles, then we wonder why we as adults struggle with this. Anyone come from a home where anything less than an A is unacceptable?

Believing that punishment and shame will keep us from doing “bad things”, using fear as a motivator… it may have worked in the short-term, but look at the long-term repercussions.

Fear as a motivator is just not sustainable. It will never produce lasting results, it only keeps you stuck in unhealthy patterns.

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